When investing in your relationships pays off

This weekend I am heading to Tahoe with my girlfriend – snowboarding for her birthday and meeting some of our good friends from California for an awesome trip.

Last night as I started packing, I went to the garage to grab my brand new snowboard that has been used once – it had been stolen from my wall rack. I had left my garage door open while I was home on my lunch break that day, and some spineless, piece of shit thief decided he needed it more than I did.

 The first, and it turns out ONLY, time I used my new snowboard. Some piece of shit decided I was having a free garage sale and nabbed it from me.

The first, and it turns out ONLY, time I used my new snowboard. Some piece of shit decided I was having a free garage sale and nabbed it from me.

I was incensed. Here I was just hours away from leaving for this trip, and my board was gone. I eventually calmed down – it is just “stuff” at the end of the day. It can be replaced. I planned out my hectic day today, running all over town to get last-minute errands done – now complicated by the fact I was going to have to also get to the shop and buy a new board and bindings before my flight leaves Friday.

My friend who I texted to tell about what had happened, let me know he had a snowboard he no longer used – and that I could have it- free of charge. I had offered this same person a room at my house a while back when he was looking for a place to stay. Turns out, his board is the exact size I need, and he is dropping it off today. A second friend found out what happened, and immediately let me know he had an extra set of bindings – mine, free of charge. I don’t even have to drive to pick this stuff up, they are bringing it by my office today.

 New (to me) bindings, delivered to my office, free of charge.

New (to me) bindings, delivered to my office, free of charge.

I’ve always tried to be there for any of my friends in times of need, whether it be helping someone move, offering them a place to stay while they go through a divorce, or simply being there when they need it. I don’t do these things to get something in return, as I wrote in “Your Network is Your Net worth”…I do it becauseit is the right thing to do for someone you are friends with. If someone is worth being friends with, they should be worth your time when they need something or someone.

I expect an equal level of loyalty from anyone who I call a friend – this doesn’t mean I expect them to do exactly what I do for them, I just expect that level of loyalty. When you treat your relationships like this – it always comes back around to you. You may get frustrated at times, your friend can’t come help you move after you helped him three months ago, you need a ride somewhere and they aren’t available…but sometimes some shitty person steals something from you, and your pals come through in the clutch.

Invest in all your relationships – treat those people the way you want to be treated – and eventually it comes back to you. If it never does, that is a bad investment and one you should cut out of your life. But like any investment, you need to give it time to pay interest.

So today I am thankful for two people who invested in a relationship with me – and I know that investment will pay off for them, because these are people who deserve that equal level of loyalty…even if they are cops. 

Final note: To the shitbag that stole my board. I got a new board, so that means when I find out who you are, the board you stole from me can now be used to teach you a lesson about respect - read into that however you would like. Just know that when you hear a knock on your door - one day it's gonna be me on the other side of it.