How easy it is to have it all in 2016

2015 was easily the most transformational year of my life. It was epic – and I use that word in its true form, not like some 16 year old douchebag describing a movie or a video they watched on YouTube.

Why was it so transformational? Because for the first time in my life, I stopped thinking about doing things and I did them. Over and over again – if a thought popped in my head, I acted on it, instead of dreaming, I started doing.

 Stop thinking about having it all and start actually having it all. Dreamcatcher Bed and Breakfast, San Juan, Puerto Rico.

Stop thinking about having it all and start actually having it all. Dreamcatcher Bed and Breakfast, San Juan, Puerto Rico.

I got out of a bad relationship, I got out of a bad career, I travelled, saw old friends, made new ones, competed more, started my own business and met the girl of my dreams. Not a bad 12 months by most people's standards.

All of those things could have happened earlier, if I had simply acted. Once I did, the world opened up to me and just started giving.

This time last year I was packing up what was left of my belongings (I threw most of it out, whatever didn't fit in a small uhaul trailer behind my truck, got chucked) I have a nomadic streak in me and I fed it – moving from North Carolina back to my childhood home of Wyoming. I am now closer to my kids, two of my brothers and my niece and nephew.

 Moving to Wyoming to be closer to my boys started a chain-reaction of "doing" that resulted in the best year of my life.

Moving to Wyoming to be closer to my boys started a chain-reaction of "doing" that resulted in the best year of my life.

I always enjoyed competing in Jiu-Jitsu and Crossfit - but had allowed my job and other responsibilities to keep me away from this passion - well, enough of that shit. I signed up for as many weightlifting and Crossfit competitions I could fit on my calendar.

At one of those competitions, I saw the most beautiful woman I'd ever laid eyes on, but didn’t get a chance to talk to her. So instead of thinking what might have been, I tracked her down on social media and said “hey”. We’ve been together ever since.

I hadn’t seen my best friend in years - so instead of picking up the phone and talking about how much fun we used to have hanging out - my new girlfriend and I headed to California for an amazing weekend – and we are gearing up for a trip to Tahoe next month to see them again.

I’ve always wanted to travel more – so instead of looking at vacation spots online when I was bored, I booked a trip to Puerto Rico. We had an incredible time on the beach, made new Crossfit friends during drop-ins and ate a ton of great food.

 Next time someone says you can't have it all, tell them to go fuck themselves. You can, and it's not difficult. 

Next time someone says you can't have it all, tell them to go fuck themselves. You can, and it's not difficult. 

I always wanted to work for myself, so I reached out to a small apparel company and pitched an idea for them to have independent franchises, with me being the first one. I never heard back, so I took the advice of my friends and family and started my own company. (Two months later that company would use my franchise idea, right down to the minute details I pitched, and now have 4 people running independent businesses. I’m flattered they liked my idea and hope all their franchises are wildly successful.)

It just takes one small movement to start the momentum needed to change your life. One step off the ledge of safety  - to begin a process that you can build on. I set out to make 2015 the best year of my life – and I didn’t do it by making some silly New Year’s Resolutions. I did it by no longer acting out of fear.

 Sonoma, CA. 2015

Sonoma, CA. 2015

So while I despise the whole “resolution” thing – I want everyone I know to experience the kind of year I had in 2015, and I know that is possible for all of you. Don’t make a list, don’t paste pictures on some “dream” board – JUST. START. DOING.

Think to yourself what it would take for you to have your best year ever? Work back from those goals and make it happen. You want to travel more? Book a trip, TODAY. I don’t give a shit if you put it on a credit card, or have to go hungry this week because you didn’t go grocery shopping. DO IT. Make it happen and figure the rest out later. You want to “get in better shape”? Don’t wait until Monday, don’t wait until the end of this morning – call your local Crossfit gym and set up your first workout.

 San Juan, Puerto Rico, 2015

San Juan, Puerto Rico, 2015

Everyone wants to be in an Instagram picture, in great shape, laying on a beach somewhere tropical with a beautiful woman (or man, or some in between, Jenner, sort of deal) – but nobody wants to put in the work to make it happen. There is a path to your best year ever – everything is there for the taking, all you have to do is pull that fucking trigger. So pull it.